I'm referring to the brain development of future generations.
62 comments so far.
https://www.reddit.com/r/childfree/comments/1h8zsv5/what_response_do_you_say_when_parents_say_there/
Frazzledeternally wrote:
"The other day I was at a christmas party and was surrounded by parents (something I truly try to avoid) and they were all complaining about how
their kids, ages 8-12, were all addicted to video games, phones,
screens, etc and EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM said a version of 'there is
nothing we can do about this' with a big shrug. I was SHOCKED. there is
nothing you can do so your 10 year kid turns off their screen????
what??? I know people are all about gentle parenting or whatever BS is
popular these days but when I was a kid, my parents had supreme control
over how I spent my time. I could get grounded, something could get
taken away from me, a gift removed, a chore given, told to turn it
off.... I don't know, anything?! to act so helpless is pathetic. I
didn't want to be rude and say something like 'you know you can fix
this, right?' any better responses?
"My two cents: parents complain about this but they secretly like that
their kid is addicted to screens because it means they don't have to do
any parenting. oh the kid wakes up, turns on video games, has a 12 hr
screen time and then goes to bed? perfect for parents."
Top responses:
mmmmrrrr6789
"Yet another reason I don't want children is I don't want to navigate
raising them in the digital/social media age. No thanks."
PCAJB
"Same. I grew up with very strict parents and had basically very
limited screen access up until I left home at 18. I felt oppressed
growing up in the 2010s and not having a phone like all my other
friends. It caused me a lot of stress and I felt left out.
"But as a now adult all I think is - I wouldn’t want my kids to have
much access to phones/ internet. So they’d definitely complain and feel oppressed. There’s just no right answer so instead I just won’t have
that battle to deal with."
faywayway1027
"Yeah and even if you somehow do it perfectly they'd still have to deal
w their brain-rotted peers."
yalldointoomuch
"This is not 'gentle parenting', this is 'permissive parenting', and
there's a huge difference. Frankly, it's giving gentle parenting a bad
name.
"Gentle parenting has to do with giving children boundaries and
consequences if they're broken, Without Violence to the Child, ie, no
spanking or hitting of any kind (and minimal yelling). For example, my
father had a rule when I was growing up: if I whined about something, I automatically didn't get whatever it was I was asking for. Zero
exceptions. I tested that rule 2x. Same consequences each time: I didn't
get the thing and was swiftly removed from the restaurant/store, But
Without Being Yelled At or Hit. I never whined again, or even attempted
a tantrum, because I knew it wouldn't get me anywhere.
"These videos of kids throwing merchandise, ruining store goods, or
screaming and crying on the ground while parents tell onlookers not to
yell at or touch their precious angel? That's permissive parenting. 'You
can do whatever you want bc attempting to be a grownup and parent you is
Too Hard and too much like actual work' ".
"I've straight up told these parents, 'no- there is something you can
do, you've just decided not to parent. Yes, it'll be hard to start
imposing consequences and behavior limits now, when there's been years
of free reign. Which is why it's important to start that early, and be consistent with your parenting. But that's entirely a monster of your
own making... and if you don't start teaching that child about
boundaries soon, society is going to start doing it for you.' "
ShinyStockings2101
"I don't think there are any 'good', constructive responses to this,
because those parents are clearly not looking for solutions."
corgi_crazy
" 'I don't want to have conflicts with my daughter'. Said by the mother
of a 3 years old girl. Explaining why her daughter gets whatever she
wanted."
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