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  • The new phone call etiquette

    From JAB@21:1/5 to All on Mon Sep 25 20:00:30 2023
    The new phone call etiquette: Text first and never leave a voice mail

    When is it okay to leave voice mails, call multiple times in a row or
    take a call in public?

    Phone calls have been around for 147 years, the iPhone 16 years and
    FaceTime video voice mails about a week.

    Not surprisingly, how we make calls has changed drastically alongside
    advances in technology. Now people can have conversations in public on
    their smartwatches, see voice mails transcribed in real time and dial internationally midday without stressing about the cost.

    The phone norms also change quickly, causing some people to feel left
    behind or confused. The unwritten rules of chatting on the phone
    differ wildly between generations, leading to misunderstandings and
    frustration on all sides.

    We spoke to an etiquette expert and people of all ages about their own
    phone pet peeves to come up with the following guidance to help
    everyone navigate phone calls in 2023.

    These will vary depending on your relationship, your age and the
    context of the call. The closer you are to someone, the less the rules
    apply. Go ahead, FaceTime your mom with no warning while brushing your
    teeth.


    Don't leave a voice mail.............


    Text before calling................

    You don't need to answer the phone............

    Emotions are for voice, facts are for text...............

    Unless it's an emergency, please hold
    If someone doesn't answer your call, do not hang up and immediately
    call them again. If they have not responded to your text about the
    call they missed, do not send them an email about it. If it is an
    emergency, clearly state that right away in a text message.

    Use video voice mails judiciously.......Voice mails are dead.


    Stay still for video calls...........


    Don't use speakerphone in public.............

    Start screening calls again
    Apple also added a new call screening feature in iOS 17 that will
    transcribe a voice mail in real time, meaning you can decide while
    they're talking to answer the phone..................



    Don't stop talking on the phone...............


    https://www.washingtonpost.com/technology/2023/09/25/cell-phone-etiquette-call-voicemail/

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  • From Michael Trew@21:1/5 to JAB on Wed Sep 27 00:50:46 2023
    On 9/25/2023 9:00 PM, JAB wrote:
    The new phone call etiquette: Text first and never leave a voice mail

    When is it okay to leave voice mails, call multiple times in a row or
    take a call in public?

    Call multiple times in a row only if an emergency. That's never
    changed. Unless it's an emergency also, it's tacky to take/make calls
    in a very public setting.

    The phone norms also change quickly, causing some people to feel left
    behind or confused. The unwritten rules of chatting on the phone
    differ wildly between generations, leading to misunderstandings and frustration on all sides.

    Take this from someone in the aforementioned younger generation. I grew
    up placing phone calls to reach people. I find the modern switch to
    sending text messages instead of calling to be absolutely obnoxious.
    Unless it's outside of appropriate hours, I always call first. People
    today seem to have issues with voice mail, also. I dunno, but I always
    check mine, home and cell, daily. Don't leave a voice message...?
    Well, I won't be calling you back. Not everyone exclusively uses a
    mobile phone.

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  • From JAB@21:1/5 to michael.trew@att.net on Wed Sep 27 05:38:25 2023
    On Wed, 27 Sep 2023 00:50:46 -0400, Michael Trew
    <michael.trew@att.net> wrote:

    Don't leave a voice message...?
    sending text messages

    Only if something relevant needs to be said/texted.

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  • From Michael Trew@21:1/5 to JAB on Wed Sep 27 20:18:28 2023
    On 9/27/2023 6:38 AM, JAB wrote:
    On Wed, 27 Sep 2023 00:50:46 -0400, Michael Trew
    <michael.trew@att.net> wrote:

    Don't leave a voice message...?
    sending text messages

    Only if something relevant needs to be said/texted.

    It is also tacky to change and/or excessively snip a quoted reply, to
    make it look like someone (me) said something entirely different.
    Instead of poor phone call etiquette, that's known as poor Usenet etiquette.

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  • From JAB@21:1/5 to michael.trew@att.net on Wed Sep 27 19:24:18 2023
    On Wed, 27 Sep 2023 20:18:28 -0400, Michael Trew
    <michael.trew@att.net> wrote:

    It is also tacky to change and/or excessively snip a quoted reply, to
    make it look like someone (me) said something entirely different.

    Please define what these three dots below mean in the English
    language.

    ...

    Example:
    Don't leave a voice message...?

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  • From Michael Trew@21:1/5 to JAB on Thu Sep 28 23:06:23 2023
    On 9/27/2023 8:24 PM, JAB wrote:
    On Wed, 27 Sep 2023 20:18:28 -0400, Michael Trew
    <michael.trew@att.net> wrote:

    It is also tacky to change and/or excessively snip a quoted reply, to
    make it look like someone (me) said something entirely different.

    Please define what these three dots below mean in the English
    language.

    ...

    Example:
    Don't leave a voice message...?

    Irrelevant. I didn't type that. Made it look as if I suggested that
    someone wasn't leaving a message, when in fact, I meant the opposite.

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  • From JAB@21:1/5 to michael.trew@att.net on Thu Sep 28 22:37:26 2023
    On Thu, 28 Sep 2023 23:06:23 -0400, Michael Trew
    <michael.trew@att.net> wrote:

    Irrelevant.

    "An ellipsis, or ellipses in the plural form, is a punctuation mark of
    three dots (. . .) that shows an omission of words, represents a
    pause, or suggests there's something left unsaid."

    Made it look as if I suggested that

    See above...

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