Beautiful Women And Sexual Attraction
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Ilya Shambat@21:1/5 to
All on Tue Jun 20 19:11:54 2023
Some men envy me because I’ve been with a number of very beautiful women. They want to know how I did it. My response is that I like these women, and I am sympathetic to their concerns.
Any man would be attracted to a beautiful women. Not any man however would value her as a person. Many beautiful women get treated as acquisition and property, and it is refreshing to them to be with someone who values them as people.
Now there are some people who think that there is something fishy about finding a woman attractive. They say such things as that this is “objectifying” women or not treating them as human beings. My response is that there is no contradiction between
being attracted to a woman and valuing her as a person; and in my relationships I have done both.
I was once with a woman who, when I said that I cared about her, asked, “If you cared so much why did you want to get in my pants?” What kind of a horrible thinking is that? Is it not possible to be attracted to someone and care about her? Where does
this lead? I’ll tell you exactly where this leads. It leads to people having sexual relationships with people they don’t care about, which relationships can only turn bad.
Once someone on the Internet asked, “Does Ilya like all women or only pretty women?” I’ve maintained very good friendships with women to whom I was not attracted, and I’ve had a relationship with a woman who was heavy and wheelchair-bound. I am
not shallow. I do however appreciate beauty in all things. That is as much the case with such things as nature and art as it is the case with women.
So if you want to be with a beautiful woman, get to know her and understand her concerns. Value her as a person rather than only as an acquisition. Many of them are used to being treated as property, and being valued as a person would be experienced by
them as a breath of fresh air. And then you can have good relationships with the best women, however attractive or unattractive you may be.
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