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  • The White Nights and the Iago Act

    From Ilya Shambat@21:1/5 to All on Mon Oct 17 21:19:12 2022
    There are some in feminism who see the “white night syndrome” or chivalric notions as yet another form of misogyny. They are confused.

    There are many situations in which a man initially has good values and good will. Sometimes a man would deeply love his woman, only to have his sports mates, his bar mates or his work mates pull an Iago act on him. They would lead him to be paranoid of
    his woman or to see her as a bad person. They would say such things as “women do nothing but screw men over” or that women are whores or that he owes it to other men to keep women down or that his feelings are unmanly. This would lead even the best
    men to be abusive to their women.

    The problem therefore is not that the man has chivalric notions. The problem is that he gets played by deceived or malevolent men. In most cases the perpetrators of the Iago act are men. Sometimes the perpetrator of the Iago act is a woman. I knew a
    situation in Australia where a man loved a woman, only to have his mother pull an Iago act and get him to be hateful and abusive to her. That destroyed what was quite a beautiful situation and made things terrible for the woman.

    Unlike most such men, I have had the presence of mind to see through the Iago acts that various people kept playing on me. I still love my ex-wife, and I love my daughter. I have been of benefit to both of them to much greater extent than have the
    feminists, which I would not have been if I had been a misogynist.

    So no, the “white night syndrome” is in no way misogynistic. The problem, once again, is that in many such situations the man gets wrongly influenced, and he becomes abusive and misogynistic when he started out in a good place. I recommend for more
    such men to have enough discernment to see through the Iago act. And I recommend for them to have the courage to keep loving whom they love, whatever the Iago of either gender has to say about it.

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