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    From The Natural Philosopher@21:1/5 to All on Mon Mar 17 12:05:51 2025
    Situation.
    Old friends of mine. Husband is now being cared for at home by wife. and carers. Basically dying of dementia.
    Son lives in house but works every day.
    Wife was doing everything, but got some kind of virus and now she isn't
    making sense any more. Just sitting there. For two weeks doing random
    shit and not making sense..
    What should son do? Mother wont see a doctor - never has. Doesn't trust
    them.
    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.

    Advice needed.

    --
    You can get much farther with a kind word and a gun than you can with a
    kind word alone.

    Al Capone

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  • From Jeff Layman@21:1/5 to Andy Burns on Mon Mar 17 13:06:22 2025
    On 17/03/2025 12:58, Andy Burns wrote:
    The Natural Philosopher wrote:

    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.
    Possibly involve the local NHS crisis resolution and home treatment team?

    A doctor plus a social worker can section someone for their own good,
    can be a brutal process, consider if it needs that before the son
    decides to act ...

    The term used now instead of "approved social worker" in the Mental
    Health Act 1983 is "Approved Mental Health Professional". See <https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Approved_mental_health_professional>

    --
    Jeff

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  • From Andy Burns@21:1/5 to The Natural Philosopher on Mon Mar 17 12:58:34 2025
    The Natural Philosopher wrote:

    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.
    Possibly involve the local NHS crisis resolution and home treatment team?

    A doctor plus a social worker can section someone for their own good,
    can be a brutal process, consider if it needs that before the son
    decides to act ...

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  • From Adrian Caspersz@21:1/5 to The Natural Philosopher on Mon Mar 17 16:57:38 2025
    On 17/03/2025 12:05, The Natural Philosopher wrote:

    Situation.
    Old friends of mine. Husband is now being cared for at home by wife. and carers. Basically dying of  dementia.
    Son lives in house but works every day.
    Wife was doing everything, but got some kind of virus and now she isn't making sense any more. Just sitting there. For two weeks doing random
    shit and not making sense..
    What should son do? Mother wont see a doctor - never has. Doesn't trust
    them.
    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.

    Advice needed.


    Without doing the intervention nuclear options available just yet,
    probably he could talk to someone at the "Age UK Advice Line" on 0800
    678 1602, and find out? Or visit their website.

    She probably could do with some respite care, and that could be
    arranged. Not sectioning....

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respite_care

    But I'd have hoped that the visiting carers would have reported upstream
    what they had found, and that the local health authority is engaged
    because of his condition.

    --
    Adrian C

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  • From The Natural Philosopher@21:1/5 to Andy Burns on Mon Mar 17 17:44:37 2025
    On 17/03/2025 12:58, Andy Burns wrote:
    The Natural Philosopher wrote:

    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.
    Possibly involve the local NHS crisis resolution and home treatment team?

    A doctor plus a social worker can section someone for their own good,
    can be a brutal process, consider if it needs that before the son
    decides to act ...


    OK. Thanks. No - its not a danger to anyone
    --
    “Puritanism: The haunting fear that someone, somewhere, may be happy.”

    H.L. Mencken, A Mencken Chrestomathy

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  • From The Natural Philosopher@21:1/5 to Adrian Caspersz on Mon Mar 17 17:47:19 2025
    On 17/03/2025 16:57, Adrian Caspersz wrote:
    On 17/03/2025 12:05, The Natural Philosopher wrote:

    Situation.
    Old friends of mine. Husband is now being cared for at home by wife.
    and carers. Basically dying of  dementia.
    Son lives in house but works every day.
    Wife was doing everything, but got some kind of virus and now she
    isn't making sense any more. Just sitting there. For two weeks doing
    random shit and not making sense..
    What should son do? Mother wont see a doctor - never has. Doesn't
    trust them.
    She has held everything together for the last couple of years, and it
    looks like she has snapped.

    Advice needed.


    Without doing the intervention nuclear options available just yet,
    probably he could talk to someone at the "Age UK Advice Line" on 0800
    678 1602, and find out? Or visit their website.

    OK. Will pass that along

    She probably could do with some respite care, and that could be
    arranged. Not sectioning....

    https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Respite_care

    But I'd have hoped that the visiting carers would have reported upstream
    what they had found, and that the local health authority is engaged
    because of his condition.

    Yes. I don't really know what is happening.

    --
    Outside of a dog, a book is a man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's
    too dark to read.

    Groucho Marx

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